Southern Gothic

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I’m a slow learner, and an even slower doer.  I think this is why going back to school has been semi-stressful for me; I often like to take a while to think about a thing – undisturbed – before embarking on the task of [insert task here].

Unfortunately, Life insists on moving at its own rate instead of mine for most things.  But, better late than never, eh?

I’ve always had a love-dislike relationship with makeup & hairdos & fashion.  A lot of folks may think it’s because I’m lazy, but it’s not.  That’s, at most, only about 20% of the reason.  The other 80% has a LOT to do with self-confidence, body acceptance, and creepy, horror-movie mirrors.  (Oh, those mirrors!)

I’m not the most confident person in the world.  (There’s probably reasons, but I think I’ll just leave that in the past with my former therapists.)  The mental, emotional, and sometimes physical processes I have to go through to conquer self-doubt when it’s in full-force can be outright exhausting, and that’s just with practical goals like careers and baking!  But personal appearance?!  

For.  Get.  It.

As I get older, it’s gotten better.  What normal, emotionally-healthy people experience in their teens and early 20s, I didn’t start experiencing until my late 20s, early 30s.  (I did say I was slow, right?!)

With all that said, I’m now wanting to start a new section of BitB entitled “Southern Gothic”, which is all about being Goth in the South.  (I know; original, right?)  What this will include are fashion and make-up posts, for the most part.  Like, 90-95% of it.  The rest will, obviously, be complaining about why I can’t wear velvet even in the Fall ’round these parts.

While I know that there are a *lot* of Goth fashion blogs out there, I don’t think there’s a lot of unity for Goths in the Southeastern US.  Unless you live in a big city like Birmingham, Atlanta, or Dallas, finding other Goths – much less validation for being Goth in the South – can be an exercise in frustration.

So, here you go:  The first ever BitB:  Southern Gothic post.

Happy?  Scared?  Confused?  Great!  Leave me a (polite and non-abusive!) comment with your thoughts and questions.  :)

New Belfry, Same Bats.

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Does starting over with a blog require an introduction? A parade? Nay, even a tea party of sorts?

I don’t know.

Anyways, I’m starting over with this blog.

Feel free to celebrate in your own way.

A little back-story: Like everyone else who was alive and able to access the Internet since the 1990s, I’ve been blogging. Well, okay; in the beginning, it was less blogging than it was making a public diary.

Hey I was young, and the word “Blog” was still pretty new. Google was still young and fresh. “The Sunshine Song” was irritating everyone on the radio.

Fun times, my friend, fun times!

I started out on LiveJournal (doesn’t everyone?), then eventually tried Diaryland (which still has the exact same layout as it did in 2002), Blogger, and then finally came to rest on WordPress.

In that time, I’ve learned a few key elements about blogging:

1.) People like amusing things.

2.) People do not like stupid-long diatribes about girly melodrama.

3.) If one is having girly melodrama, it’s best to write it in an email, paper journal, etc. that the other person will never see. Or to just call and talk to the person that you’re having a problem with in a mature manner.

In all that time, there was only one blog I had that seemed to go anywhere, and that was The Written Nerd. While not wildly popular (I think, at its height, 5 people may have followed it), it was still the best I’d ever done with blogging that didn’t involve ranting nonsensically about nothing.

The key to that, and #4 on my list up there, is this: People are more likely to visit a blog that’s updated regularly. And while updating daily may be a bit more than I can handle at the moment (or even remember), it’s always good to have goals!

With that, I’m starting this blog over. My old posts from The Written Nerd and others are still tucked safely away, and you may see an oldie but goodie pop up now and again, but for now, I’m going to stick to what I know.

Welcome to the new Belfry!

Please watch your step. Guano. Is. EVERYWHERE.

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A Southern Gothic Nerd Speaks Out.